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"This needed to be said Kevin, thank you. I believe you are getting to heart of the problem in the church. Instead of a Christian being allowed to exercise their own conscience, the conscience of a few people living in South Carolina and California is forced upon the entire brotherhood." ~Anonymous

"Great blog, Kevin. I'm originally from Stanton (I remember you being a young boy there). I Spent almost twenty years in the church seeing many of the things you speak about but keeping them in the back of my mind, and doubting my own feelings that something wasn't right.

"This constant gossiping was so confusing because it was OK for teachers to talk about people, but no one else to even question actions of a teacher. Being outside of that influence and away from the constant intimidation, it is so much more clear. There was no love or understanding. I'm sure most, except for the leaders, know something is wrong if they would just be honest with themselves. I regret so much putting my children through this more than I regret putting myself through it.

"I'm just glad I left. No need for being bitter toward anyone because it was my choice to be there and stay there. Keep up the good work." ~Loraine Forshee

I have read every word of this blog… I spent many hours/days reading… Feeling so sick inside… I felt so grateful to find this blog." ~Anonymous

"I left the group because I realized that what the group taught and what God teaches were often-not always-vastly different. I had to make a choice; stay out of fear, obligation, because of relationships, or leave so I could continue to follow Christ. I left. You know, one thing I heard A LOT while in the group is that “fallen away ones” are always longing to come back into the group.” At the time I believed it, but I just haven’t found it to be true! If it were, there would be plenty of people flocking back, and it isn’t happening. I have been in contact with quite a few who have left, and not one of us has thoughts about going back. Ever." ~Debby Stevens

"What’s ironic is that we point these things out to them only for them to ignore, dismiss and scoff at the blog both publicly in talks or sermons, and among themselves in secret. For you leaders and members of the SCOC who still read this blog, it’s one thing to dismiss the dissenters, but when you have people in your own ranks parroting the SAME EXACT PROBLEMS we talk about here (some of whom don’t even read the blog yet they see the same things we do), it may be time to consider your ways instead of having “unity” (conformity) meetings trying to ignore it." ~Advocate for Peace

"I too am a current member in 'good standing' in the church. I read the blog and I know of two other current members who also read it. I am sure you're wondering why in the world I would still be attending after reading all of this. Honestly, I am weak and just don't have the courage to leave because of family members who are still involved. Because of the threat of withdrawal for murmuring it's impossible to ask others what they think of the blog posts and videos. I am sure I will leave someday, I'm just not quite ready." ~Anonymous

"I'm currently a member in "good standing" in the church. I read the blog, even though its frowned upon. I can't begin to tell you how closely the comments and personal testimonies align and match what's happening in the church. You read something here, and it opens your eyes to that behavior now. so that when you see it happening, you instantly think about who it happened to here on this blog, and you know the damage it causing." ~Anonymous

"I’m not giving up on God like they believe I’m lost now. I’m so glad I found this blog. It helped open my eyes to what I was a part of for TOO long." ~Not going back

“The members of the church have a right to question and ask for Bible answers from those who are doing the preaching. But this is considered almost tantamount to heresy by the preachers of today; and if a member persists in such he is usually slandered and called a trouble-maker… We should know our Bible and we should be ready and willing to take a stand for the truth. We are commanded to ‘contend for the truth.’ But this can hardly be done seeing that the church is ignorant and the preachers are content to have it so. Individually and collectively we should take scriptural stands upon all subjects…” Merie Weiss (Brethren Letter, 1967) More Merie Quotes

“But men cannot give up their opinions, and therefore, they can never unite, says one. We do not ask them to give up their opinions–we ask them only not to impose them upon others. Let them hold their opinions, but let them hold them as private property. The faith is public property; opinions are, and always have been private property. Men have foolishly attempted to make the deductions of some great minds the common measure of all Christians. Hence the deductions of a Luther, and a Calvin, and a Wesley, have been the rule and measure of all who coalesce under the names of these leaders. It is cruel to excommunicate a man because of the imbecility of his intellect.” Alexander Campbell

“I blush for my fellows who hold up the Bible as the bond of union, yet make their opinions of it a test of fellowship; who plead for union of all Christians, yet refuse to fellowship with such as dissent from their notions. Vain men! Their zeal is not according to knowledge, nor is their spirit that of Christ. Such antisectarian-sectarians are doing more mischief to the cause and advancement of truth, the unity of Christians, and the salvation of the world, than all the skeptics in the world. In fact, they create skeptics.” Barton Stone

“If you can’t counter it in your heart, you will be affected. A lot of people say, ‘Gary you’re just trying to censor people from their God-given right to look at whatever it is that they’re going to look at.’ Go ahead and look at it. But I can only say to you, be admonished, and be well-versed. If you’re not having the ability to counter whatever it is that comes your way. Or all of a sudden someone comes and says something, and it hooks you in, you’re lured in with hook, line, and sinker, you have no one to thank but yourself. Our admonition is not to forbid anyone from doing anything, unless it’s a sin.” Gary Preman

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Anonymous on Breaking free of old thought patternsIn developing a deeper understanding of pride, arrogancy, and the superiority complex one needs to learn the behaviors of the arrogant and then look for those behaviors in the characters in the Bible…
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Anonymous on Breaking free of old thought patternsTo develop a deeper understanding one must learn both denotation and connotation . Denotation is the dictionary definition of a word but connotation is the actions, behaviors, and ideas associated wit…
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Anonymous on Breaking free of old thought patternsThe curse of arrogance is that you waste your entire life trying to prove to yourself that you are superior to others when instead you could be trying to prove to yourself that you are humble. Paul th…
Anonymous on Breaking free of old thought patternsIn conducting an anti bullying ministry it is important to expose the abusive behaviors of the aggressors and the lies they tell to cover up their atrocities. Lies like: it never happened, the victim…
Anonymous on Breaking free of old thought patternsOnly the blood of Christ can cleanse the sin from a man's soul and remove the guilt that come with sin. Repentance and confession are required first though. Pedophilia does not carry the death penalty…
Anonymous on Breaking free of old thought patternsOne of the baffling things about the proverbs is that you don't see them in daily life so they are difficult to understand. An example is Proverbs chapter 9 how it describes the behaviors of wisdom an…
Anonymous on Breaking free of old thought patternsOn the subject of rich men and beggars one must consider the future. Economies rise and fall on a regular basis and in the next recession or depression will you be a rich person or a beggar? It does n…
Anonymous on Breaking free of old thought patternsIn Luke 16:19-31 it does not mention their respective ages. The begger could be young and the rich man old, or the could be the same age, or the begger could be old and the rich man young. It could ha…
Anonymous on Breaking free of old thought patternsOne of the members of the scapegoat club can be found in the story of Lazurus and the rich man in Luke 16:19-31. At first read you have to ask yourself "why did not Lazurus just steal some food?". The…
Anonymous on Breaking free of old thought patternsThere was one man in Spring Valley who Merie drove out for inappropriate thoughts but no inappropriate behavior who left for several years and returned much more mature and responsible so you are corr…
Montesquieu on Breaking free of old thought patternsNot sure at all about your accusation of someone being a pedophile, but I do know you’ve stretched the truth on here quite a bit. I’d have to see some pretty serious evidence to accept anyone in Stant…
Montesquieu on Breaking free of old thought patternsI’m sorry to hear of that, my friend. While I certainly don’t appreciate the liberties you sometimes take with the truth, I would never wish drug or alcohol addiction, or a child’s attempted suicide o…
Montesquieu on Breaking free of old thought patternsHello 007, You’re right about the grudges. Best to forgive, as unforgiveness harms the person harmed greatly. I’m afraid, that even though the oppressors were withdrawn from (and it is hard to think o…
Anonymous on Breaking free of old thought patternsThere was a man who wrote in the abstract who lived before Christ and before Solomon who wrote a book called the art of war. In the art of war, a short book only thirteen chapters, he wrote everything…
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Anonymous on Breaking free of old thought patternsOn the subject of credibility it does not matter to me what you think of me but so that the name of God can be glorified and not reproached I will pray one prayer for manifestation that the pedophile'…

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