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"This needed to be said Kevin, thank you. I believe you are getting to heart of the problem in the church. Instead of a Christian being allowed to exercise their own conscience, the conscience of a few people living in South Carolina and California is forced upon the entire brotherhood." ~Anonymous

"Great blog, Kevin. I'm originally from Stanton (I remember you being a young boy there). I Spent almost twenty years in the church seeing many of the things you speak about but keeping them in the back of my mind, and doubting my own feelings that something wasn't right.

"This constant gossiping was so confusing because it was OK for teachers to talk about people, but no one else to even question actions of a teacher. Being outside of that influence and away from the constant intimidation, it is so much more clear. There was no love or understanding. I'm sure most, except for the leaders, know something is wrong if they would just be honest with themselves. I regret so much putting my children through this more than I regret putting myself through it.

"I'm just glad I left. No need for being bitter toward anyone because it was my choice to be there and stay there. Keep up the good work." ~Loraine Forshee

I have read every word of this blog… I spent many hours/days reading… Feeling so sick inside… I felt so grateful to find this blog." ~Anonymous

"I left the group because I realized that what the group taught and what God teaches were often-not always-vastly different. I had to make a choice; stay out of fear, obligation, because of relationships, or leave so I could continue to follow Christ. I left. You know, one thing I heard A LOT while in the group is that “fallen away ones” are always longing to come back into the group.” At the time I believed it, but I just haven’t found it to be true! If it were, there would be plenty of people flocking back, and it isn’t happening. I have been in contact with quite a few who have left, and not one of us has thoughts about going back. Ever." ~Debby Stevens

"What’s ironic is that we point these things out to them only for them to ignore, dismiss and scoff at the blog both publicly in talks or sermons, and among themselves in secret. For you leaders and members of the SCOC who still read this blog, it’s one thing to dismiss the dissenters, but when you have people in your own ranks parroting the SAME EXACT PROBLEMS we talk about here (some of whom don’t even read the blog yet they see the same things we do), it may be time to consider your ways instead of having “unity” (conformity) meetings trying to ignore it." ~Advocate for Peace

"I too am a current member in 'good standing' in the church. I read the blog and I know of two other current members who also read it. I am sure you're wondering why in the world I would still be attending after reading all of this. Honestly, I am weak and just don't have the courage to leave because of family members who are still involved. Because of the threat of withdrawal for murmuring it's impossible to ask others what they think of the blog posts and videos. I am sure I will leave someday, I'm just not quite ready." ~Anonymous

"I'm currently a member in "good standing" in the church. I read the blog, even though its frowned upon. I can't begin to tell you how closely the comments and personal testimonies align and match what's happening in the church. You read something here, and it opens your eyes to that behavior now. so that when you see it happening, you instantly think about who it happened to here on this blog, and you know the damage it causing." ~Anonymous

"I’m not giving up on God like they believe I’m lost now. I’m so glad I found this blog. It helped open my eyes to what I was a part of for TOO long." ~Not going back

“But men cannot give up their opinions, and therefore, they can never unite, says one. We do not ask them to give up their opinions–we ask them only not to impose them upon others. Let them hold their opinions, but let them hold them as private property. The faith is public property; opinions are, and always have been private property. Men have foolishly attempted to make the deductions of some great minds the common measure of all Christians. Hence the deductions of a Luther, and a Calvin, and a Wesley, have been the rule and measure of all who coalesce under the names of these leaders. It is cruel to excommunicate a man because of the imbecility of his intellect.” Alexander Campbell

“If you can’t counter it in your heart, you will be affected. A lot of people say, ‘Gary you’re just trying to censor people from their God-given right to look at whatever it is that they’re going to look at.’ Go ahead and look at it. But I can only say to you, be admonished, and be well-versed. If you’re not having the ability to counter whatever it is that comes your way. Or all of a sudden someone comes and says something, and it hooks you in, you’re lured in with hook, line, and sinker, you have no one to thank but yourself. Our admonition is not to forbid anyone from doing anything, unless it’s a sin.” Gary Preman

Anonymous on An Open Letter to My DaughtersVery powerful lesson today. Matthew 7:1-2 judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgement ye judge, ye shall be judged. In context spoken as a warning to the Jews at Jerusalem who would late…
Anonymous on An Open Letter to My DaughtersAnother question about women not teaching men I have to ask what happens when a woman is of higher intelligence than the men? Or if the woman is more virtuous than the men? Or has greater understandin…
Anonymous on An Open Letter to My DaughtersA question for the finest minds on earth: in proverbs 5:8 it says let thy fountain be blessed... I look at fountain as an abstract idea for a source of life giving substance. If your job is your fount…
Anonymous on An Open Letter to My DaughtersHenry Ford was antisemitic and his writing were used by Adolf Hitler as propaganda, bad example there. As far as having no critical thinking skills that was true when I was under the oppressive teachi…
Anonymous on An Open Letter to My DaughtersKind of a rambling emotionally charged rebuttal. Exactly the same behaviors that you accuse the Women in leadership in the Stanton group of, and it begs the question: have you looked in the mirror lat…
Curious Chris on An Open Letter to My DaughtersWomen never teach men in public in the NT. Do you even know what I was withdrawn from for? I strongly doubt it. Exactly what did I say that I was withdrawn from for? 90% of those upholding the unscrip…
Anonymous on An Open Letter to My DaughtersIf the NT is the standard to be followed are women the only group commanded to be silent? What does the NT say about the withdrawn from remaining silent? As far as your bogeymen of the illuminati, the…
Curious Chris on An Open Letter to My DaughtersThe system didn’t immediately post my comments, which explains the comment stutter, and Gish gallop. It has come to my attention, that since Stanton is run by emotional women, and has been since Merie…
Curious Chris on An Open Letter to My DaughtersNo women in the NT taught or questioned men. Why are you?
Curious Chris on An Open Letter to My DaughtersWhen you can show in the New Testament where a woman questioned or taught a man, then I’ll answer you, Over it.
Curious Chris on An Open Letter to My DaughtersWhere did women teach men in the New Testament?
Curious Chris on An Open Letter to My DaughtersWow, great to have the ability to comment again!! Thank you!! There was a bug fit the last few months, though I love the new commenting system. Where to begin, since my town had the National Guard out…
Over it on An Open Letter to My Daughters@Curious Chris You talk a whole lot about women (mainly sexually) and their “place”, subjection, submitting to the husband, etc. Notice how this Open Letter has nothing to do with literally anything y…
Anonymous on An Open Letter to My DaughtersPainful reminder today of the truth of Proverbs 11:22 as a jewel of gold in a swines snout, so is a fair woman that is without discretion. One application of this abstract psychological principle is t…
Curious Chris on An Open Letter to My DaughtersIt's a huge fight, and it's one that none of us men ever should have had to fight. We didn't really have to face these temptations in 1940, when porn was completely illegal, and cell phones and the in…
Anonymous on An Open Letter to My DaughtersI am in the commandment "Thou shalt not covet thy neighbors..." and I find that if one does not exercise self discipline over ones desires that ones desires become uncontrollable; that is wanton. Like…
Lynn on An Open Letter to My DaughtersYou are right that it isn't an easy book to understand. That is why I have spent decades in it and not just combing over it. None of it is taken lightly. There are actually members of the COC way befo…
Curious Chris on An Open Letter to My DaughtersMy experience has been that this book is the most difficult book in the Bible, and anyone reading it to find out what the future holds is quite often disappointed in reality, though many are fully sat…
Lynn on An Open Letter to My DaughtersOver the past few decades I have been doing extensive studies in the books of Revelation and Daniel. I will say that with listening to a lot of the tapes that Merie did on Revelation it wasn't even cl…
Curious Chris on An Open Letter to My DaughtersOne must be careful, my friend, to accurately diagnose misandry and misogyny. The former is never used by the left, because they have accepted that men and the patriarchy are the enemy, though they ar…

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