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22 August

Everything I know about bad relationships, I see in Stanton

By Kevin|2019-08-27T13:11:31-06:00August 22nd, 2019|Uncategorized|1 Comment

One day a few years ago, I got a call from the adult son of a Stanton member. I'll never forget how he described, point by point, his relationship with his mom. It was like he was describing my relationship with my mom. Personalities were very similar, after decades in the sect. Stories of dysfunction in family gatherings were eerily similar. And yet, I'd never met his mom (or if I did, I was a young child). This is not a random coincidence. It is because Stanton is a petri dish for bad relationships, spurred on by "counsel" from the ruling rabbis (teachers) instructing their students in how to live life. They have built a culture that destroys families even when the family is intact [...]

Marriage, sex, and submission
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20 March

Marriage, sex, and submission

By Kevin|2019-04-11T17:17:53-06:00March 20th, 2019|Uncategorized|18 Comments

That title should get your attention. :-) My wife and I have been enormously blessed in our marriage. It's not a perfect marriage—no marriage is, because it's made up of two imperfect people. Things cannot be greater than the sum of their parts. Or can they? We have had highs and lows in our 29 years. But just as the highs get higher, so do the lows—they get higher as well. Higher highs and higher lows is good in investing, but it's a spiritual experience in marriage. I wouldn't trade it for the world. I'm not saying you have to be a Christian to have a good marriage. I'd like to say you did, because I would love for all of you to be believers [...]

12 October

Love and marriage, love and marriage

By Kevin|2019-04-11T02:09:18-06:00October 12th, 2013|Uncategorized|2 Comments

Note: The "a-ha" moment I describe in Turning the Tables on Legalism about what it would feel like to receive legalistic love from my kids first clicked in my mind regarding marriage. This article is the true story of when I first made that connection. I'm thankful for the love of my wife, in part because she exhibits her love for me in ways I neither deserve nor ask for. That makes me feel privileged and honored to be her husband. I know without a doubt that I have her loyalty and affections. I could argue that most everything good in my life flows from the fact that I feel such security in our relationship. That's because love is inherently inspiring, motivating, and empowering, whether it's [...]

12 August

Rules for marital sex

By Kevin|2019-09-26T10:46:06-06:00August 12th, 2013|Uncategorized|118 Comments

This is a subject I intend to handle with as much tact as possible, but I make no apology for treating the subject boldly as well as 100% scripturally. It is important to speak the truth on this, because the oppressive reach of church teaching extends even into the sacred realm of the marriage bed, which Paul declares to be "undefiled." The church leaves no sacred cows, so unfortunately, neither can we. I believe sex within marriage to be a gift of God, and something to be enjoyed without guilt or shame. The teachings of the church on sex seem to start with the premise that it is dirty and shameful; hence rules such as abstaining on Saturday night. In one instance, a woman was [...]

"This needed to be said Kevin, thank you. I believe you are getting to heart of the problem in the church. Instead of a Christian being allowed to exercise their own conscience, the conscience of a few people living in South Carolina and California is forced upon the entire brotherhood." ~Anonymous

"Great blog, Kevin. I'm originally from Stanton (I remember you being a young boy there). I Spent almost twenty years in the church seeing many of the things you speak about but keeping them in the back of my mind, and doubting my own feelings that something wasn't right.

"This constant gossiping was so confusing because it was OK for teachers to talk about people, but no one else to even question actions of a teacher. Being outside of that influence and away from the constant intimidation, it is so much more clear. There was no love or understanding. I'm sure most, except for the leaders, know something is wrong if they would just be honest with themselves. I regret so much putting my children through this more than I regret putting myself through it.

"I'm just glad I left. No need for being bitter toward anyone because it was my choice to be there and stay there. Keep up the good work." ~Loraine Forshee

I have read every word of this blog… I spent many hours/days reading… Feeling so sick inside… I felt so grateful to find this blog." ~Anonymous

"I left the group because I realized that what the group taught and what God teaches were often-not always-vastly different. I had to make a choice; stay out of fear, obligation, because of relationships, or leave so I could continue to follow Christ. I left. You know, one thing I heard A LOT while in the group is that “fallen away ones” are always longing to come back into the group.” At the time I believed it, but I just haven’t found it to be true! If it were, there would be plenty of people flocking back, and it isn’t happening. I have been in contact with quite a few who have left, and not one of us has thoughts about going back. Ever." ~Debby Stevens

"What’s ironic is that we point these things out to them only for them to ignore, dismiss and scoff at the blog both publicly in talks or sermons, and among themselves in secret. For you leaders and members of the SCOC who still read this blog, it’s one thing to dismiss the dissenters, but when you have people in your own ranks parroting the SAME EXACT PROBLEMS we talk about here (some of whom don’t even read the blog yet they see the same things we do), it may be time to consider your ways instead of having “unity” (conformity) meetings trying to ignore it." ~Advocate for Peace

"I too am a current member in 'good standing' in the church. I read the blog and I know of two other current members who also read it. I am sure you're wondering why in the world I would still be attending after reading all of this. Honestly, I am weak and just don't have the courage to leave because of family members who are still involved. Because of the threat of withdrawal for murmuring it's impossible to ask others what they think of the blog posts and videos. I am sure I will leave someday, I'm just not quite ready." ~Anonymous

"I'm currently a member in "good standing" in the church. I read the blog, even though its frowned upon. I can't begin to tell you how closely the comments and personal testimonies align and match what's happening in the church. You read something here, and it opens your eyes to that behavior now. so that when you see it happening, you instantly think about who it happened to here on this blog, and you know the damage it causing." ~Anonymous

"I’m not giving up on God like they believe I’m lost now. I’m so glad I found this blog. It helped open my eyes to what I was a part of for TOO long." ~Not going back

“The members of the church have a right to question and ask for Bible answers from those who are doing the preaching. But this is considered almost tantamount to heresy by the preachers of today; and if a member persists in such he is usually slandered and called a trouble-maker… We should know our Bible and we should be ready and willing to take a stand for the truth. We are commanded to ‘contend for the truth.’ But this can hardly be done seeing that the church is ignorant and the preachers are content to have it so. Individually and collectively we should take scriptural stands upon all subjects…” Merie Weiss (Brethren Letter, 1967) More Merie Quotes

“Dear sir, this plan of making our own nest, and fluttering over our own brood; of building our own tent, and of confining all goodness and grace to our noble selves and the “elect few” who are like us, is the quintessence of sublimated pharisaism. The old Pharisees were but babes in comparison to the modern: and the longer I live, and the more I reflect upon God and man–heaven and earth–the Bible and the world–the Redeemer and his church–the more I am assured that all sectarianism is the offspring of hell; and that all differences about words, and names, and opinions, hatched in Egypt, or Rome, or Edinburgh, are like the frolics of drunken men; and that where there is a new creature, or a society of them, with all their imperfections and frailties, and errors in sentiment, in views, and opinions, they ought to receive one another, and the strong to support the weak, and not to please themselves. To lock ourselves up in the bandbox of our own little circle; to associate with a few units, tens, or hundreds, as the pure church, as the elect, is real Protestant monkery, it is evangelical pharisaism.” Alexander Campbell

"Someone told me here just recently that, Gary, do you realize what’s happening, under cover? People are coming out and expressing what it is that they feel, their disdain and contempt for what you believe. I’ve got to know how to respond. And I know how I respond. That’s the basis of this lesson. I refuse. I refuse, to the uttermost of my being to dignify the absurdity of the questions and the challenges in which it is that people will present. What I mean by that is that I will not honor, they are not worthy of my consideration. … [M]y whole estimation was to not give it a nickel’s worth of consideration. But I want to give you what it is how I deal with things like this. How I respond. Because I don’t. I don’t." Gary Preman

Truth Defender on Here’s Joe Gautreau’s letter of withdrawal…where do I start?Part 5, and final The women have been trained that their opinions, carefully cultivated by propaganda, are to be always respected or that's some kind of "abuse," which is one of the most subjective wo…
Truth Defender on Here’s Joe Gautreau’s letter of withdrawal…where do I start?Part 4 Let us always remember what Solomon said about brawling and contentious women in Proverbs 21. He is talking about every woman who raises her hand and shares in a Bible class in Stanton. Thank y…
Truth Defender on Here’s Joe Gautreau’s letter of withdrawal…where do I start?Part 3 And when the women are allowed to speak in church, they now weaken and emasculate every man in the church. Because a righteous man CANNOT AND WILL NOT respect a man who is controlled by his wif…
Truth Defender on Here’s Joe Gautreau’s letter of withdrawal…where do I start?Part 2 You know the vast majority of the women in Stanton, especially the ones with college degrees, and the ones who revere Merie, and often the single women, who were never properly taught, will rev…
Truth Defender on Here’s Joe Gautreau’s letter of withdrawal…where do I start?Part 1 Any time you disagree with the leadership in Stanton, you will hear the furious rebukes about "Humble yourselves and receive instruction." Should a man heed and obey those who God has placed ov…
Craig Cusick on Here’s Joe Gautreau’s letter of withdrawal…where do I start?Hi Lynn, I’m doing great!! Thank you very much. Life has never been better since I stopped attending functions of Merie’s cult. Kicking myself for 20 wasted years being around such a corrupt people fi…
Truth Defender on Here’s Joe Gautreau’s letter of withdrawal…where do I start?From Akzed on Gab. Profound comment. “True, it’s not about knowledge though but intelligence. The smarter someone is, the more doubt he experiences, according to Dunning-Kreuger, because of his awaren…
Truth Defender on Here’s Joe Gautreau’s letter of withdrawal…where do I start?Parts 3 & 4 Stanton is straining at the gnats of sexual sins that EVERY MAN IN STANTON HAS COMMITTED AT SOME POINT IN HIS LIFE, LIKELY ENOUGH, while swallowing the camels of women speaking in the…
Truth Defender on Here’s Joe Gautreau’s letter of withdrawal…where do I start?Part 2/4.
Truth Defender on Here’s Joe Gautreau’s letter of withdrawal…where do I start?Part 2 won’t post, so will take pictures. There are four, so four posts will be necessary.
Truth Defender on Here’s Joe Gautreau’s letter of withdrawal…where do I start?Did you know Jews were instrumental in the popularity of comic books and are responsible for Batman, Superman, Captain America, MAD magazine, and many more comics? Every…..Single…..Time It’s no cohenc…
Truth Defender on Here’s Joe Gautreau’s letter of withdrawal…where do I start?There are far bigger issues that need to be addressed other than women in Stanton rebelling against God’s commands for them for 50 years. However, danger rarely can be confronted when wives refuse to…
Truth Defender on Here’s Joe Gautreau’s letter of withdrawal…where do I start?Part 1, as the entire post was apparently too long, and wouldn’t post. Part 2 will come on Friday. Many teachers in Stanton use the tactic of justifying any church discipline they take, ranging from r…
Truth Defender on Here’s Joe Gautreau’s letter of withdrawal…where do I start?According to Stanton, Acts 2:38 means you must be baptized for the remission of your sins. [38] Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the…
Truth Defender on Here’s Joe Gautreau’s letter of withdrawal…where do I start?A historical tour guide at the original California State Capital of Benicia becomes irate over the fact that Talmudic Jews control the world. A good friend had invited me for lunch in the lovely city…
Truth Defender on Here’s Joe Gautreau’s letter of withdrawal…where do I start?What a beautiful post on Gab. For anyone who is on social media, Gab is the best social media out there, though it has infiltrators as well. It’s the only media that doesn’t censor criticism of small…
Truth Defender on Here’s Joe Gautreau’s letter of withdrawal…where do I start?I will always be grateful for the women in Stanton who raised me. They did a fabulous job. It seems a paradox. TD, how can you oppose women speaking in the church yet be grateful for the women who rai…
Truth Defender on Here’s Joe Gautreau’s letter of withdrawal…where do I start?How can a church obey God when women are in leadership positions and speaking publicly? The sad fact is it can’t. You can’t have women disobeying God’s order to be silent in the church, and spineless…
Truth Defender on Here’s Joe Gautreau’s letter of withdrawal…where do I start?Can’t post the link, but this was posted by a telegram account, “The Catholic State” It’s true. It’s for the men who see Jewish treachery, but since Merie, paid by a Jew, taught non-violence and women…
Truth Defender on Here’s Joe Gautreau’s letter of withdrawal…where do I start?Who controls the media that we were all exposed to from our birth? Same people pushing feminism and the idea that women are equal to men in roles. Funny, when you Google “women speaking in church,” we…